To anyone who KNOWS there is a Big Decision to make and wants to Make the Right One
“Not Making a Decision You Know You Need to Make, Drains Your Energy and Negatively Affects Every Area of Your Life.”
Imagine you’re in a log-rolling contest, and it’s your turn to step onto the sea of logs out in the river. You land so that one foot is on one log, while the other is planted on a second log. Imagine the tension, stress, straining and massive energy it takes to keep your footing on both logs.
At some point you know you must choose which log to stand on; a decision must be made, or one will be made for you that just might be worse than having chosen something!
Sometimes the fear of losing something paralyzes us, so we think not deciding will buy us time. In my experience, nothing could be further from the truth. Not deciding is usually going to cost you more than making that decision you know you need to make.
Hello, I’m Tom Volkar, Business and Relationship Coach for the last 18 years, and I’ve been where you are. When you have a major decision to make that you aren’t making, others can sense your self-doubt and hesitation. Making the right decision for you isn’t stressful. Not making a decision is what causes stress.
It’s not hard to tell the difference between someone who is honoring their true desires and someone who is not, and true calling and true love are the biggest decisions in one’s life. It’s amazing how the majority never answer either call.
But that’s not you, is it? You know you have a major decision to make and you want to make the right one. I’d like to introduce you to the Right Decision Lab, a highly effective method to help you make any major decision you are facing with confidence, clarity, and certainty. Before I do that, I’d like to share my own story, as an example of honoring yourself by making the right decision for you.
My Journey to Big Decision-Making (a love story)
My own journey started years ago when I married without really knowing why. Eventually, it became obvious that we were not a good fit for one another. Being the eternal optimist, I hung in there hoping for 19 years, but it finally ended in divorce.
Back then I had little awareness. At that time, I hadn’t done much self-examination. The divorce came on the heels of a business failure. However, even though I was depressed, I relished the opportunity for a fresh start.
I really wanted to understand what happened with my marriage, so I dove into becoming a certified relationship coach. It took me 18 months of grieving the loss of both my marriage and my business but armed with a new understanding of what I wanted in a relationship, I finally began dating again.
In the last 12 years, I’ve loved five wonderful women with all of my heart, each with progressive depth and connection. Each relationship was closer to an ideal match and that’s what made my decision to leave this last dear one so heart-wrenching.
In many ways our fit was exceptional, but I finally realized that you can enjoy vulnerability, open communication, great sex, mutually enjoyable activities, connection with remarkable chemistry and still miss the mark.
Now, this clarity around my big decision didn’t happen overnight. And it was anything from easy. Our bond was so strong that we broke up and got back together four times in five years.
But finally, I realized that making the decision you know you need to make is a matter of self-honor. You can be a wonderful match, with the love of your life, but if there isn’t room in the relationship for you to be all of who you are, then the truth is – you’re still settling.
The same principle applies if you’re enslaved in a well-paying job that doesn’t fulfill you. If you don’t have the freedom to be yourself then eventually your life experience will insist that you hit bottom in order to get your attention.
I learned that for a relationship to soar, in addition to chemistry, communication, connection and love you’ve got to have a mindset match. If there’s a difference in what you each believe is possible, ultimately the relationship will fail.
In the end, I proved to myself this truth:
Not Making a Decision You Know You Need to Make, Drains Your Energy and Negatively Affects Every Area of Your Life.
While I’ve KNOWN that for a while, it sure took me a while longer to see how I could guide others to confidently make the decision they’ve been avoiding.
I realized that sound decision-making is sound decision-making, and the same process that I’ve used for years to career coach those who want to quit a job and confidently start a business also works in love and in all relationships.
And that’s the purpose of this invitation to you today. To open the door to those who are ready to honor themselves by making the decision they know they need to make. By doing that, you’ll reclaim the power, freedom, and clarity you long for.
But one caution …
It’s Not Always about Ending or Leaving – Sometimes the Right Decision is about Staying and Working It Out
But how will you know for sure that you’ve made the right decision? In working with me, you’ll learn how to validate your decisions using effective tools. You’ll learn how to clearly see possibilities you’ve never before considered. You’ll learn how to use both rational and heart-based tools to be sure it’s the right decision for you.
Who is this for?
This lab experience is for you if you deeply care about making the right personal or business decision about:
- Job or Career
- Divorce or Ending a long-time Relationship
- Your Health
- Having kids
- Starting a Business…
You get the idea. If you’re not sure, ask yourself:
“Do I have a big decision to make that I’ve been avoiding?”
If you answered YES then I want to help you make that decision and to feel the potency of knowing that you did the right thing for YOU!
Consider this your invitation to something new:
The Abundant Advisor™ Right Decision Lab
First, a few warnings:
If you’re not ready, to be honest with yourself, this is not for you. There’s not much that’s required to begin this path other than the willingness to do so and a commitment to be radically honest.
- If you only want more decision-making information, this isn’t for you. This work goes beyond mere information. It’s transformational because you’ll actually make your biggest decision during our time together.
- You won’t like this experience if you’re squeamish about accepting personal responsibility and actually feeling your darker emotions. Victims cannot tread on this path. You won’t make it. So if you spend your days thinking about how the world is out to get you, about how you’ve been screwed or taken advantage of, you are not yet at a place in your journey where I can help.
- You know that experiencing constant unresolved pressure never works well.
If you’re still reading, then let me point out one more thing you need to know:
If you aren’t honoring your own true desires then it’s adversely affecting every other area of your life and business.
Why would any business owner care about this? You need to care because President Trump, and quite a few CEOs, are dead wrong when they say “Nothing personal; it’s only business.” All business is personal because it’s conducted by people who want to contribute, connect and belong.
Here’s How Right Decision Lab Works:
The Lab experience is made up of a LIVE ONLINE EVENT, in three sessions, followed by a Private Workshop, One on One Session with me.
Contact Tom to register for the next event.
We do this work together. Each week, there’s an interactive, LIVE audio presentation, where I walk you through the thinking/feeling/doing work for the week. This will be something you can review and use over and over again. By the end of the process, I will have done my best to transfer the process to you.
This is not about dogma or a belief structure of any kind. This is about developing the awareness and tools required to actually make the right decision for you at this time.
Here’s the path we travel:
- Session 1: Increasing Clarity & Awareness
- Session 2: Building a Decision-Making Structure
- Session 3: Choosing & Validating Your Decision
Post-Lab: Individual Session
As you see, this event is actually going to be in five parts. In the first part, you will complete a thorough pre-decision-making assessment and return it to me so I can be more aware of your big decision challenge and the factors affecting it.
The second, third and fourth parts will be the audio content presentations (with live question and answer sessions) to give you the process structure to make your big decision. These will be recorded in case you can’t attend live, and so that you can choose to review them at any time or go through them at your own pace.
During the lab experience, you’ll also have complete access to me via email and I pledge to respond to all questions within 24 hours.
Following that, each person who registers will also receive a private 30-minute session with ME to hammer out details about how to follow-up your decision with immediate right action and make your decision sustainable.
The enrollment fee for the Abundant Advisor™ Right Decision Lab is $247.
Two things to remember here…
- This process works for any meaningful decision. Once you learn how to use the process tools, everything is 100% customized for YOU.
- It’s my honor to be your guide and I commit to you that as long as you do the work – you will make the right decision for you. I will not leave any man or woman behind.
And as always, I’m happy to take the risk:
Your Satisfaction is 100% GUARANTEED.
This is some of the most valuable work I’ve ever done. And I’m honored to be able to share it with you.
All my best,